The Art Of We
Relationship Mastery in Leadership & Love
You don't need to give up who you are to make your relationships work. I'll help you be fully honest, fully you, and fully met.
How We Relate Is How We Lead. How We Lead Determines What's Possible.
Extraordinary relationships, leadership, and contribution become possible when you stop adapting to belong and start leading from the truth of who you are.
Many of us attempt to relate, lead, and influence by hiding parts of ourselves or by managing everyone else's comfort at the expense of our own authenticity and integrity.
A certain level of accomplishment is possible this way—but it's exhausting and it has a ceiling. It will never result in the fulfillment, outcomes, or relationships that you truly desire.
"Relational leadership" is the capacity to show up fully in your life, leadership, partnerships and relationships with congruence. No more split between who you are inside and how you show up. No more choosing between being authentic and being accepted. No more compromising what you're here to do and what you stand for.
If you're ready to take an honest look at what's standing between you and the relationships, leadership, and contribution you truly desire, your next chapter begins here.
"Krista has an incredible capacity to listen deeply, ask powerful questions and support leaders to find their authentic expression and contribution in the world. Krista's presence is loving, radiant and extremely high quality. She combines her incredible background in corporate consulting with a rare intuitive magic to create lasting outcomes for the people she serves. Her commitment to women's leadership and what becomes possible when women take a stand both for themselves and what they care about is inspiring and has changed my life." — Emma
Build The Kind of "We"
That Makes Everything Else Possible
Your partnership is either the ceiling or the catalyst for your potential.
Most people settle for compatibility. Extraordinary partnerships are built on conscious practice—explicit agreements that transform default patterns into intentional choices.
Whether you're deepening an existing partnership, co-creating with a business partner, or calling in your next relationship, this work creates the foundation for your deepest healing and highest potential.
This is for you if:
- You're tired of ordinary partnerships and ready to co-create something explicitly transformative
- You want your relationship to amplify your individual expression and contribution, not diminish it
- You're ready to move beyond professional compatibility into successful conscious collaboration
- You're single and refuse to settle—you want to call in a partnership that catalyzes your best self
As husband and wife and business partners, we've discovered that extraordinary partnerships don't just create personal fulfillment—they amplify professional success. When your relationship becomes your foundation instead of your distraction, everything else you build gets stronger.
— Krista & Will Van Derveer
"Nothing has given me clearer visibility into my relational patterns. I can actually witness my old strategies—like hiding or shrinking—in real time. That awareness is what’s allowing me to choose differently and lead with more agency, sovereignty, and self-trust."
- Relational Leadership Client
"To say our relationship agreements have supported us is a vast understatement ... they have transformed us and what we imagined possible in a marriage ... Such a big game changer for us, especially in conflict, we have something anchoring both of us that we can rely on ."
- Relationship Agreements Client
"I would hands down recommend this to women who are ready to pull back some of the layers or places we slip into by habit or pattern or comfort and proceed on a journey that is much deeper. It can be uncomfortable at times with but with Krista’s facilitation you can land on the place that you need to be in order to bring your current expression into the world."
- Women's Leadership Client
Meet Krista
If this resonates and you're ready to stop performing and start creating—in your leadership, your partnership, or both—let's connect.
I'm a leadership and relationship coach with over 20 years of experience working at the intersection of leadership development and relational intelligence: helping people lead from authentic authority and helping teams and partnerships create relationships that expand what's possible.
I've worked with C-suite executives, emerging leaders, and women in transition through executive coaching, transformational group work, and programs like High Impact Women. I've helped organizations move beyond command-and-control toward relational leadership that fosters trust, shared purpose, and superior results.
I coach from lived experience: my own journey from performing and subordinating to authentic leadership and expression. My marriage to Dr. Will Van Derveer as a laboratory for conscious partnership. Together we co-host The Art of We podcast, sharing the 24 relationship agreements that turned our love into a launching pad for contribution.
Through my practice, I help women leaders stop accommodating their way to influence and start leading from clarity, dignity, and what they truly stand for. I help couples and partnerships to unwind relational patterns that no longer serve them and create relationships that catalyze their best selves and fuel their individual and shared missions.
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